Mediation is completely voluntary and it is a good way for the two parties to sit down, with the help of mediator, and work out their differences. They can eventually come up with a solution or agreement to the problem and settle things amongst themselves and in the long run, it will be cheaper for them, then actually fighting it out in court. Mediation is completely confidential. If children are involved, it helps the parents to sit down, like adults, and handle a situation that is tough to reach an agreeable solution, helping them to better themselves when it comes to the future, and handling problems together, pertaining to the children. You can take your lawyer with you to a mediation session or you can use your attorney as a source between sessions. That is completely up to you. Your attorney can guide you through what you need to do and what you shouldn't do. They would be able to help you in a positive way, as most people do not know what they are entitled to and what is the law pertaining to all aspects of a divorce.