How can I make sure to have enough money to live on after a divorce? I had been a stay at home for years.

In terms of your children, you should seek child support to ensure your children are cared and supported for. Typically, individual states have their own systems in place that will award support based on the income of the non-custodial spouse and the amount of children. As well, if there are other special circumstances that require more than the allotted amount, such as education or special needs, you can petition the court for such an increase to reflect those amounts.

In terms of yourself, your best option would be to seek alimony payments. Typically, courts will award alimony when as a spouse you are unable to support yourself. As a stay at home mother, the courts may award alimony based on your contributions to the family and the home. However, these amounts are never guaranteed, and the best option while waiting for such payments would be to adjust current spending and habits to ensure your ability to maintain the home.

You should speak with an experienced attorney who can determine what your best options are, based on your personalized situation, and ensure that you and your children are taken care of.