Divorce for Men: When to Hire an Attorney

Divorce for men can be very different than for women. You may not be sure whether or not an attorney is appropriate in your case. Some men are concerned that hiring an attorney will make the divorce messier or more hostile.

When Is the Best Time to Hire an Attorney?

If you are facing divorce, there are many good reasons to hire an attorney as early as possible, including:

• Protection of your property rights;
• Protection of your custodial rights if there are children involved in your marriage;
• An attorney can help limit the emotional side of divorce, making it more about the business of dividing assets and coming to an agreement about child custody (if applicable);
• An attorney will understand the divorce law in your state and be able to tell you what your rights and responsibilities are; and
• You won't have to handle the paperwork or filing procedures; your attorney will do this for you.

The downside of hiring an attorney is generally the cost. However, if you have considerable income or assets at stake, or even more importantly, if you wish to protect your parental rights, the cost is well worth it.

If Your Ex Hires an Attorney

If your ex hires an attorney, it is wise to also hire an attorney. You should not work with your wife's attorney without assistance of your own counsel because her attorney will be acting on her behalf and in her best interest, not yours.

If You Have Children

Child custody is complicated and you likely want to protect your rights as a father. An attorney can help you by coming up with a strategy that best suits your wishes as a parent. There may be child support and spousal support issues the attorney can help you work out as well depending on incomes of the parties and the length of the marriage.

Collaborative Divorce

Not all divorces are messy court battles. You can seek out an attorney whose practice is focused on collaborative divorce. This means that the parties agree to an out of court divorce. It is similar to mediation in that it aims to find an agreement that will work for and satisfy both parties. This can be a less stressful way to get a divorce.

Getting the Advice of an Attorney

An experience divorce attorney can help you come to an arrangement in your divorce that focuses on what is most important to you. By using an attorney, you can minimize much of the emotional charge that surrounds divorce. An attorney will have your best interests at heart and will advise you of your options while listening to your needs.